Hey, metalheads! Sorry I used to be gone final month. I used to be busy transferring to a wholly new state and you understand how loopy that kind of factor can get. Regardless, I’ve obtained so many love questions from y’all and Cinnamon is right here to assist!
I hope you guys have a rockin’ Thanksgiving with you and yours, however let’s get into why you’re right here within the first place — you’ve love questions and I’ve recommendation. The primary one on this month’s version of “Love Bites” made me chuckle as a result of I not often get music and love associated questions! Ship extra! You are able to do that by sending your query or request for some recommendation by emailing me at [email protected].
Now, let’s get began.
“My girlfriend doesn’t like steel music. Each time I play Metallica or Slayer, she rolls her eyes. Is that this a deal-breaker?”
It’s not a deal-breaker until she actively tries to switch your playlists with bubblegum pop. Relationships are all about compromise.
Introduce her to some lighter bands as a gateway drug — begin with Ghost or some kind of symphonic steel. If she nonetheless doesn’t vibe, hold steel as your private sacred area. Love is louder than your amp, in spite of everything. You don’t have to love the identical issues to be in love; opposites do appeal to in spite of everything.
It may additionally assist issues if you happen to open your thoughts as effectively and hearken to her favourite music. Who is aware of? Possibly you’ll discover one thing new to hearken to while you’re collectively!
“I’m a touring bassist, and my companion hates that I’m gone a lot. How do I steadiness love and life on the street?”
Ah, the everlasting battle of rock versus romance.
Communication is vital — FaceTime or Zoom, love letters, and sending them unique snippets of your reveals may help bridge the gap. Bonus factors if you happen to dedicate a tune to them onstage. In the event that they nonetheless can’t deal with it, remind them that being with a rock star means sharing the stage together with your desires too.
On the opposite facet, there must be some kind of compromise. They should perceive that touring is a part of your profession.
“I hold attracting the identical sort of emotionally unavailable folks. What am I doing fallacious?”
I’ve been right here earlier than. I used to draw one poisonous relationship after one other till I labored on myself and healed, so I really feel the place you’re coming from.
First off, cease blaming your self. You’re not a catastrophe magnet; you’re simply purchasing within the fallacious aisle. Change up your sort — ditch the brooding dangerous boys and go for somebody who appears to be like like they really recycle. Emotional unavailability shouldn’t be a character trait; it’s a neon signal to maintain transferring.
If you happen to hold attracting a nasty “sort”, you would possibly need to search remedy from a educated skilled. That means you will get to the basis of why you’re caught on this rut and repair that. Take time without work, be celibate and single, be alone and self mirror.
“My companion is obsessive about astrology, however I feel it’s nonsense. How will we make this work?”
As I mentioned earlier, opposites can appeal to, even when your companion checks horoscopes when you roll your eyes. The reply to this may be fairly easy: allow them to have their stars; you retain your skepticism.
You would, nonetheless, give it a shot simply as soon as — it’d even be enjoyable. I take advantage of numerology and astrology on a regular basis and my boyfriend is a complete disbeliever. However he respects me and doesn’t mock or belittle me for it, and that’s what issues.
As the vacations creep nearer, keep in mind this: love, like an ideal present, doesn’t have to return wrapped in glitter or break the bank. The perfect relationships are constructed on moments, not materials issues. So whether or not it’s a shared chortle, a deep dialog, or simply being one another’s secure haven… cherish it.
So whether or not you’re cozying up with somebody particular or rocking your solo vibes this season, don’t let the vacation strain flip your relationship life right into a stress fest. Preserve it actual, hold it enjoyable, and most significantly, hold being unapologetically you.
Till subsequent time, rock on, lovebirds!
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