I turned 39 a pair months in the past, and I’ll admit—my birthday hit in another way this 12 months. Not in an “I’m so afraid of turning 40” type of approach. Fortunately, I’ve sufficient stunning, horny, wonderful mates of their 40s to get me enthusiastic about this subsequent decade. It was extra of a realization that I solely have one 12 months left to profit from my 30s.
The final 9 years have been so full. We grew our household, my enterprise has grown exponentially, and so lots of the issues I dreamed about in my 20s have change into actual. Nevertheless it’s flown by, and this birthday made me sit up and think about if there’s something that I wish to do earlier than I say goodbye to this decade.
One of many nice issues about running a blog is that your weblog turns into a type of private scrapbook, capturing totally different moments of your life. As I thought of all this, I remembered that again once I turned 30, I wrote a weblog submit known as “10 Issues I Need to Do In My 30s.” It made me interested by which of them I’d achieved and which of them have been nonetheless on my checklist. And did I really nonetheless need to do all of them? So, right now I’m revisiting that submit with you guys. Watch the video under as I stroll you thru what I actually wish to do throughout this remaining 12 months of my 30s. Spoiler: it’s going to be a really full 11 months.
Right here’s a recap of the targets on my unique 30s Bucket Listing, in addition to some new ones I’m prioritizing this 12 months:
Go Browsing
I’ve surfed a number of occasions in my 30s! I’m undoubtedly not good at it, however I’ve gone out in Costa Rica and in Malibu, and it’s one thing I wish to do extra of sooner or later. An enormous a part of why I needed to surf was my love for the ocean and surf tradition. (That is actually what impressed us to purchase our property in Malibu in 2020.) It’s been so unimaginable to have a spot to go the place we will spend extra time by the water and be immersed within the laid-back surf group there, so that is undoubtedly a purpose that’s in movement in my life.
Grasp Bread Baking
You guys understand how a lot I like to bake, however I nonetheless haven’t actually devoted myself to baking my very own bread. And I feel I’m okay with that. I’ve realized that for me, baking bread actually symbolizes an act of slowing down and embracing life’s easy pleasures. However I’ll be trustworthy—I get simply as a lot pleasure out of going to the farmer’s market and shopping for a very good loaf of sourdough.
Journey to Japan
That is actually humorous as a result of I fully forgot this was on my checklist—however I’ve really began planning a visit to Japan for this fall! For me, it is a reminder that while you write down your targets, you’re setting them in movement even with out realizing it. I can not wait to expertise the tradition and the meals in Japan, and I’m going to be doing a little sourcing for Japanese artisans and makers for Casa Zuma.
Study to Sit Up Straight
It feels actually random that I wrote this one, however I do suppose that my posture has improved a LOT, and I really get feedback on my nice posture fairly steadily. Right here’s a visualization that has actually helped me: Image a string working by way of your middle, during the highest of your head after which pulling you UP towards the sky. It really works, proper?
Embrace the Weekend
This one is actually about not working across the clock—which may be exhausting while you personal your individual enterprise. I’ve been engaged on being totally current with my household and mates once I’m not working. However I’ve additionally discovered that it is a steadiness that’s at all times altering. There are seasons the place I’m extra targeted on work, and I discover a lot pleasure in creating and rising my enterprise. After which there are seasons the place I can let up a bit and unplug extra typically. I don’t suppose it is a purpose that I’ll ever test off my checklist, however I’m at all times working to seek out that steadiness and being intentional about creating area to unplug, decelerate, and simply be current.
Dwell in Europe for at Least 6 Months
I’d nonetheless like to do that—but it surely’s not going to occur earlier than I flip 40. And that’s okay. What I wish to do is spend a couple of weeks in Europe subsequent summer time exploring a brand new place with our household. Possibly that’s how I’ll have a good time my fortieth?
Rediscover Poetry
That is one which I’d forgotten about, but it surely undoubtedly nonetheless resonates. One thing I’ve been enthusiastic about these days is incorporating extra of a bedtime ritual that helps me mirror on the day as an alternative of simply watching a present till I go to sleep. I’ve began maintaining a e-book of poetry by my mattress, studying one poem an evening, after which taking 5 minutes to jot down any ideas from the day that I wish to keep in mind.
Personal Solely Attractive Lingerie
TMI alert: ever since Covid, I don’t really put on lingerie in any respect. Possibly a bralette if it’s completely obligatory, however that’s it. So this one’s a moot level.
Study to Do a Headstand
This looks like a lot of effort proper now, and I feel I’m completely okay with letting it go.
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Okay, in order that was my previous checklist… on to my new targets! After I sat down and thought of what I need this 12 months to appear to be, I spotted it was much less about DOING and extra about BEING. Which displays the ways in which I’ve personally advanced since I wrote that first submit 9 years in the past. I wish to be so intentional with my time and who I’m changing into as I enter this subsequent decade of my life, and these milestone birthdays is usually a good time to zoom out and see if the best way we’re spending our time is aligned with our values.
So, right here’s what received added to my checklist:
Create House in My Schedule for the Tasks I’m Passionate About
Launching Casa Zuma on the finish of final 12 months opened up such an thrilling new side of my profession, and I found that I’m actually enthusiastic about this a part of the enterprise. However, like so a lot of you guys, an enormous problem for me is discovering sufficient hours within the day to do every part that I wish to do. So, I wish to get very disciplined about blocking my time all through the week to be extra targeted and environment friendly with my time, in order that I can open up area for all of the various things I wish to work on.
Have Extra Enjoyable With My Youngsters
For 3 years in a row, one in all my New Yr’s intentions has been to “have extra enjoyable.” (Sure, I do know that claims one thing about me, lol.) I are inclined to get very targeted on the duty at hand, which may lead me to be a bit too severe at occasions.
A serious worth for me is creating extra enjoyable experiences and reminiscences with our household. My youngsters are eight and ten, and these are the most enjoyable ages—I don’t wish to miss a single minute of it. Over the following a number of months, I wish to be so intentional about being extra spontaneous and doing enjoyable issues collectively. Climbing, street journeys, making artwork collectively, going to new eating places—all these easy issues that assist us escape of the rut of our day-to-day schedule.
Carve Out a Profession That’s All My Personal
One factor I’m studying: the older you get, the much less you care about what others consider you. (Thank goodness!) As I shut out my 30s, I wish to wholeheartedly embrace the elements of my profession that really feel genuine to me, and that carry me probably the most pleasure.
One of many difficult issues about being a content material creator is that, because of social media, it may be tempting to do issues simply because everybody else is, or as a result of an algorithm prioritizes sure kinds of content material. And though these methods may be rewarded within the short-term, my precedence is to completely present up with my complete coronary heart, creating content material that serves you guys and that I’m authentically excited to share as a result of I consider it’s actually significant.
Perceive and Align With My Cycle
If you happen to’re not but acquainted with the idea of cycle syncing, this might sound random, however let me clarify. The final concept is: as an alternative of doing the identical issues all through the month, you tailor your behaviors to the present part of your menstrual cycle. Cycle syncing might apply to how you’re employed out, the meals you eat at totally different occasions of the month, or how you propose your workday.
This matter is high of thoughts for me proper now, as a result of I’m having a interval for the primary time in years. Between having infants, breastfeeding, and being on contraception, I haven’t had an everyday cycle in over a decade. So now that it’s again, I’m excited to dig extra into this matter and take note of how my hormones are affecting my power, my productiveness, psychological readability.
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Okay, let’s get this get together began! Don’t miss my Youtube episode the place we chat about all of them, and I’ll do my greatest to share updates all year long on how every of those goes.
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